Yesterday I saw on the BBC News website this - Inconsiderate bosses not only make work stressful, they may also increase the risk of heart disease for their employees, experts believe. So that's why I was told I had borderline high blood pressure for the first time ever two months ago.
Again more days of no communication. I too must learn to keep my mouth shut. They are making me feel and behave as ungenerous as they are, so I must stop.
Wednesday, 26 November 2008
Saturday, 22 November 2008
I've seen the Light
Yes, today I've seen the light, the interconnectivity of things and am now a true believer.
A white van advertising Home Move Removals company and in small black letters underneath - 'Jesus is the greatest move of life' - so truly he is the son of God of Estate Agents.
A white van advertising Home Move Removals company and in small black letters underneath - 'Jesus is the greatest move of life' - so truly he is the son of God of Estate Agents.
Thursday, 20 November 2008
Appeal
My letter from M said that I had a right to appeal and I had to let them know by Thursday 20th November. Today I have emailed her to say I will not appeal. She had thought my deadline for appeal was 18th November.
For the three working days this week M has barely spoken to me. If she has asked me to do anything it has been on email and if she does ask me to do anything in person it is at the end of the day as she is walking out of the office. So her body language speaks volumes - she doesn't want to have to talk to me or deal with me any longer.
At the end of the day yesterday, she asked if had I sorted out her IT problem - I was unaware of it. This was said again as an after thought as she was walking away. She didn't want to hear that I couldn't do what she wanted so I had to explain on email. She emailed back saying that I should just fix it she was too busy to deal with it. On going to her desk to show her what I meant (logging her off to log on as administrator) she closed her machine down and then said it wasn't that important it could wait until Monday! I call her behaviour not just childish, but bullying. She can't do things face to face in an open office so bullies me under the secrecy of email. Her treatment of me is shit.
She, who once depended on me as (I quote her, 'her rock'), and who gave me a large sum of money last year (at my birthday) for something I could not have afforded otherwise, to now treat me with such disrespect and intimidation is stressful to say the least.
I try to do the good karma thing and thank her and him mentally for everything I've been able to do, but to try that against this kind of behaviour, I'd have to be a saint.
These petty, petty annoyances are driving me mad.
I will not appeal. I am getting more than is the statutory allowance in these cases, albeit based on my part-time salary rather than my full-time salary. No, I will not appeal but will wait to see how her behaviour will change from now on.
For the three working days this week M has barely spoken to me. If she has asked me to do anything it has been on email and if she does ask me to do anything in person it is at the end of the day as she is walking out of the office. So her body language speaks volumes - she doesn't want to have to talk to me or deal with me any longer.
At the end of the day yesterday, she asked if had I sorted out her IT problem - I was unaware of it. This was said again as an after thought as she was walking away. She didn't want to hear that I couldn't do what she wanted so I had to explain on email. She emailed back saying that I should just fix it she was too busy to deal with it. On going to her desk to show her what I meant (logging her off to log on as administrator) she closed her machine down and then said it wasn't that important it could wait until Monday! I call her behaviour not just childish, but bullying. She can't do things face to face in an open office so bullies me under the secrecy of email. Her treatment of me is shit.
She, who once depended on me as (I quote her, 'her rock'), and who gave me a large sum of money last year (at my birthday) for something I could not have afforded otherwise, to now treat me with such disrespect and intimidation is stressful to say the least.
I try to do the good karma thing and thank her and him mentally for everything I've been able to do, but to try that against this kind of behaviour, I'd have to be a saint.
These petty, petty annoyances are driving me mad.
I will not appeal. I am getting more than is the statutory allowance in these cases, albeit based on my part-time salary rather than my full-time salary. No, I will not appeal but will wait to see how her behaviour will change from now on.
Sunday, 16 November 2008
Karma
I've been given some advice and I don't know if I am a big enough person to follow it.
The advice is that mentally I should thank M & D for not just releasing me from this toxic environment but also thank them for all the money they have given me in the past which has allowed me to do many exciting things. The good will and good feelings will emanate from me and everyone will be much happier.
Somehow I think it is easier to write than do.
The advice is that mentally I should thank M & D for not just releasing me from this toxic environment but also thank them for all the money they have given me in the past which has allowed me to do many exciting things. The good will and good feelings will emanate from me and everyone will be much happier.
Somehow I think it is easier to write than do.
Wednesday, 12 November 2008
Attention to detail
Yes, it is always important to pay attention to the detail. D never does, M does but then never remembers. An interesting combination.
D's car's windscreen was smashed (I had to wonder if someone I knew had done it) and he had asked for the insurance documents. The accounts department sent through last year's document by mistake, D sent it off without checking, claim refused, a very pissed off D had to pay the full amount and blamed accounts department. Who was at fault?
I have done a brilliant job in completing the form for D - in record time. He skim read it and said it was good. I would be interested to see who he blames (if anyone is still around to blame) if the form doesn't win him the job.
Annual appraisals at this time of year have been overseen by me and I have usually been involved in the majority of them, but in line with M & D preparing themselves for existence without me I have been taken out of most of them. Tonight, M leans secretively over my desk (at 5.30 and again the first time she has spoken to me all day) and says that she, D and another director have taken themselves out of the schedule (I was only doing hers) and they will meet over coffee/lunch to discuss. As if I believe her and as if I care.
I mention to her that there is little point doing mine and she retorts that it is entirely up to me. I follow up with an explanation saying that in the light of how the secretaries were dealt with then mine is probably irrelevant and again she says it is up to me.
Are other people's bosses like this? If anyone is reading this who has a boss, can they let me know?
D's car's windscreen was smashed (I had to wonder if someone I knew had done it) and he had asked for the insurance documents. The accounts department sent through last year's document by mistake, D sent it off without checking, claim refused, a very pissed off D had to pay the full amount and blamed accounts department. Who was at fault?
I have done a brilliant job in completing the form for D - in record time. He skim read it and said it was good. I would be interested to see who he blames (if anyone is still around to blame) if the form doesn't win him the job.
Annual appraisals at this time of year have been overseen by me and I have usually been involved in the majority of them, but in line with M & D preparing themselves for existence without me I have been taken out of most of them. Tonight, M leans secretively over my desk (at 5.30 and again the first time she has spoken to me all day) and says that she, D and another director have taken themselves out of the schedule (I was only doing hers) and they will meet over coffee/lunch to discuss. As if I believe her and as if I care.
I mention to her that there is little point doing mine and she retorts that it is entirely up to me. I follow up with an explanation saying that in the light of how the secretaries were dealt with then mine is probably irrelevant and again she says it is up to me.
Are other people's bosses like this? If anyone is reading this who has a boss, can they let me know?
Tuesday, 11 November 2008
Finally
Yes finally, after the office resounding with M's hysterical laughter for most of the day, she emails me to tell me that the decision has been made and she has a letter for me. Would I like to discuss the contents with her or just receive the letter? I decide on the discussion... its more fun.
I am being made redundant. They will pay me statutory (3 days a week) but not capped. My last day is 13th January and as a friend pointed out, at least it's not a Friday.
I am being made redundant. They will pay me statutory (3 days a week) but not capped. My last day is 13th January and as a friend pointed out, at least it's not a Friday.
Monday, 10 November 2008
Another Monday.
If anyone is still following this exhausting and sad saga then today's behaviour by M is still more of the same. No eye contact, no personal words, like 'Hello Cliff', 'Good morning Cliff'. Nothing. Until the end of the day when she actually says 'Night, Cliff'. And the only reason she did this was because other people were in the office and it would have appeared rude not to.
If you have been following, you would have expected in the light of what M said last week, that I would have by now received a letter confirming my position and payment. So, if you follow M's logic from last week - the reason we had the second final consultation was because she was panicking that she hadn't followed the correct procedure as she hadn't followed up the first final consultation meeting with a letter. Does this then mean that as she hasn't followed up the second final consultation meeting with a letter that we are going to have a third final consultation meeting?
Oh, and D is haranguing me again to prioritise my work so that I can finish his work by close of business on Wednesday. Er, at what point was he prioritising when he left this work for a month before acting on it? And at what point was he prioritising when he decided he didn't need me?
If you have been following, you would have expected in the light of what M said last week, that I would have by now received a letter confirming my position and payment. So, if you follow M's logic from last week - the reason we had the second final consultation was because she was panicking that she hadn't followed the correct procedure as she hadn't followed up the first final consultation meeting with a letter. Does this then mean that as she hasn't followed up the second final consultation meeting with a letter that we are going to have a third final consultation meeting?
Oh, and D is haranguing me again to prioritise my work so that I can finish his work by close of business on Wednesday. Er, at what point was he prioritising when he left this work for a month before acting on it? And at what point was he prioritising when he decided he didn't need me?
Thursday, 6 November 2008
How annoying!
By inadvertently advising them of the capping of my weekly salary I have indeed played into their hands for offering me a reduced payment and I do not have any recourse to a tribunal for more money.
However, I do, if necessary, still have the right to appeal their decision because I can say it was a foregone conclusion. I have evidence to prove it.... but only if I keep my mouth shut!
Would I feel happier in west Cheshire? More friends and family, maybe time to think of a move.
However, I do, if necessary, still have the right to appeal their decision because I can say it was a foregone conclusion. I have evidence to prove it.... but only if I keep my mouth shut!
Would I feel happier in west Cheshire? More friends and family, maybe time to think of a move.
The truth is somewhere
Yes, the truth is somewhere, but I'm not sure where. I meet with M and make a suggestion as to how I could keep my job. I do this because I am playing the game not because I really do want to keep it.
M had told me that the reason we were having another meeting was because I (yes, my fault again) said I wasn't going to fight the redundancy. There is supposed to be a discussion and consultation period and I had just negated that by my initial reaction. But we know from my previous post that the outcome has already been decided. So although it appears to be a waste of time, I am still receiving a salary.
However in this discussion with M, I provided her with two pieces of information she was not aware of. I know who her legal advisers are and they are crap. That the cooling off period for redundancy is 6 months not 3 months. That the redundancy pay can be capped at £330 per week.
If it is 6 months, then I would like my pay to reflect my previous full-time salary. If it isn't I will accept my part-time salary as long as it is not capped. If it is capped - and there is a £1500 difference between the two, I will consider a tribunal.
Interestingly instead of giving them a way of paying me less, by telling them about the salary being capped, I have also given them an opportunity to be greedy and try to pay me less because to quote D 'she would not be expecting more'.
Why would he think that?
M had told me that the reason we were having another meeting was because I (yes, my fault again) said I wasn't going to fight the redundancy. There is supposed to be a discussion and consultation period and I had just negated that by my initial reaction. But we know from my previous post that the outcome has already been decided. So although it appears to be a waste of time, I am still receiving a salary.
However in this discussion with M, I provided her with two pieces of information she was not aware of. I know who her legal advisers are and they are crap. That the cooling off period for redundancy is 6 months not 3 months. That the redundancy pay can be capped at £330 per week.
If it is 6 months, then I would like my pay to reflect my previous full-time salary. If it isn't I will accept my part-time salary as long as it is not capped. If it is capped - and there is a £1500 difference between the two, I will consider a tribunal.
Interestingly instead of giving them a way of paying me less, by telling them about the salary being capped, I have also given them an opportunity to be greedy and try to pay me less because to quote D 'she would not be expecting more'.
Why would he think that?
Tuesday, 4 November 2008
The blind leading the blind.
M is really too childish.
I ask her why we are meeting, didn't we meet last week in a 'final consultation'? Shouldn't I have received a letter from her confirming my financial settlement? Her reply is that we are having the final consultation now. Uh? Couldn't she just send me the letter she should have sent me? Her reply is I can have the meeting or not, its fine with her! And then it all goes pear-shaped. No eye-contact! No words spoken, until I finally agree I will meet her. Oh dear, oh dear.
Is she having a tantrum because she can't get her own way? My advisor (who is my father-in-law) and who has dealt with more employment issues than I've had hot dinners, just says that neither she nor her solicitor know what they are doing and he laughs. The blind leading the blind.
And just between you and me, I've seen the emails between her and her solicitor and I would love to quote them, but who knows who is watching...... anyway suffice it to say that her solicitor has put in writing the following words 'It can then be confirmed that the appeal has been unsuccessful, after the appeal meeting'.
I'm a long way from an appeal meeting and the conclusion has already been decided? Oh dear.
I ask her why we are meeting, didn't we meet last week in a 'final consultation'? Shouldn't I have received a letter from her confirming my financial settlement? Her reply is that we are having the final consultation now. Uh? Couldn't she just send me the letter she should have sent me? Her reply is I can have the meeting or not, its fine with her! And then it all goes pear-shaped. No eye-contact! No words spoken, until I finally agree I will meet her. Oh dear, oh dear.
Is she having a tantrum because she can't get her own way? My advisor (who is my father-in-law) and who has dealt with more employment issues than I've had hot dinners, just says that neither she nor her solicitor know what they are doing and he laughs. The blind leading the blind.
And just between you and me, I've seen the emails between her and her solicitor and I would love to quote them, but who knows who is watching...... anyway suffice it to say that her solicitor has put in writing the following words 'It can then be confirmed that the appeal has been unsuccessful, after the appeal meeting'.
I'm a long way from an appeal meeting and the conclusion has already been decided? Oh dear.
Monday, 3 November 2008
Why are we doing this again?
On Saturday I receive a letter from M. Not the letter I expect, which should have been a financial statement of what I could expect to receive. Oh no. It is a letter inviting me to discuss my impending redundancy at a consultation meeting. Eh? Haven't we done all this once? Am I going mad or is she? Apparently I must have panicked her at our last meeting and she thinks she might not have gone through the correct process of making me redundant. Interesting. What do I do now? Say, nah, perfectly happy with the process we've been through already and see where that takes us? Or go along with it?
I need to know: are they paying me statutory or actual weekly salary? are they paying me the statutory or actual salary based on my 3 month part-time employment or my full-time employment. Better meet her then.
M & D are off again at their country estate, to refuel their energy to fight another day. The offices are maintaining. Sales managers are reluctantly taking up the slack in my absence but are so happy to give it back to me when I return. I mean, some of them can barely switch on a computer!
I need to know: are they paying me statutory or actual weekly salary? are they paying me the statutory or actual salary based on my 3 month part-time employment or my full-time employment. Better meet her then.
M & D are off again at their country estate, to refuel their energy to fight another day. The offices are maintaining. Sales managers are reluctantly taking up the slack in my absence but are so happy to give it back to me when I return. I mean, some of them can barely switch on a computer!
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